The List

Last night at my birthday dinner, we created a list of things our girls should keep in mind when looking for a potential mate.  It started because we were discussing how people in love lose all sense of reason and do crazy things.   It got a little humorous, but there's some good stuff in there, too.  It is titled....


Qualities In A Guy:  For When We Fall In Love and Lose Our Minds

Honest
Tall
Funny
Handsome
In college working for a degree
Athletic
Someone to talk to for hours
NON-gamer (as in video games)
Return Missionary!!!!
Has a job
Worthy priesthood holder
Supports you in college goals
Football!!!  Non-Utah fan - it's gotta be BYU
Knows how to work hard and make goals (finisher)
Negative blood type  (to avoid those nasty RhoGAM shots when you're pregnant)
Gentleman
Active
Loves his Momma
Baller (as in basketball)
Supportive
Drives a car (not sure where that came from)
Respects your opinion and as a woman
Loves kids
Chef
Willingly serves in callings
Bitter ender (hangs in there when times get tough)
Not prideful
Wants to get married in temple
Respects and likes your parents
Appreciates your wit
Smart
Someone who treats me like my parents treat each other
Not a loser

Here's hoping they keep at least a few of these in mind when the love bug strikes. :)

Women and Politics

Since the election on Tuesday, I have been puzzling over a statistic that I heard:  the majority of women voted for President Obama.  This surprised me and I've been pondering and coming up with my own theories on the why, but was hesitant to put them out there because some of them were not very complimentary to women.

While watching the news last night, a panel discussed this very question and came to the same conclusions that I had.  First, the numbers:  among women voters, 54% voted for Obama v. 46% for Romney.  But when broken down to single and married women, a majority of singles -  63% - voted for Obama while a  majority of married women (55%) voted for Romney.  Now to the "why".  

Obama speaks to the need of a single woman to be cared for.  Married women have a spouse looking out for them, but a single woman is on her own, yet still has that innate desire to be watched over and Obama's plans, particularly that on providing healthcare and financial assistance, fill that need.  Secondly, on social issues, particularly abortion, single women want to know that they can get that abortion when they need one.  One panelist expressed that married women tend not to be thinking about abortion, but for a single woman, she wants that available to her and wants to know that the government will help her get it (through the new healthcare plan).  

As I listened to my own thoughts confirmed and said aloud, I was greatly saddened about the road my gender is traveling down.  I am deeply supportive of women's rights and the importance of fair treatment for women and girls across the globe.  I truly believe that it is women who can be the most effective leaders in taking countries and communities and families toward a productive and enriching society.  As I see more and more women make the choice to be single, to eschew the roles of wife and mother, I see a narrowing of their opportunities and a limiting of their ability to change and impact the world for good. 

I was also dismayed by the ebbing of moral values shown by the abortion issue.  Historically, women have been the champions of moral standards and conduct, yet clearly, that has deteriorated to the point where a majority of single women would choose a president and political philosophy that ensures they can be sexually active and have a back-up plan if it doesn't go the way they want it to.  It seems that selfishness has become a majority trait.

What can be done?  My thoughts quickly traveled to this conclusion: how much more we need to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ!  No political campaign or ideological debate will have the impact of a heart converted to Christ.  I was immediately grateful for the decision of a prophet of God, Thomas S. Monson, to allow missionaries to serve at a younger age which has resulted in a huge surge of young people going out to spread the message of Christ. My prayers have increased that the people of my country will listen and believe. And I can continue my work on my most important stage:  my home.  I have four daughters who are intelligent, talented, capable, and followers of Christ. They can make a difference.

And so can I.

Men

If you are raising a son, I strongly recommend watching this video by Elder D. Todd Christofferson:

http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2012/10/brethren-we-have-work-to-do?lang=eng&media=video


Some of the lines that stood out for me:

• Life is not a competition between men and women.
• Adult men need to be worthy models, to teach young men...how to pursue hobbies without becoming addicted.
• We have a perfect Master who wrought a perfect Atonement.
• The church, world, and women are crying for men of God.

Being a More Christian Christian

I listened to this talk today by Elder Robert D. Hales and was especially impacted by his recital of the qualities of those who hear and heed the Savior's voice:  love, faith, sacrifice, caring, service, patience, peace, forgiveness, conversion, endurance to the end.  I want to be better at internalizing and showing these qualities.  And I look at them and think how the world could change for good if more of us followed the Savior.

Being a More Christian Christian

http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2012/10/being-a-more-christian-christian?lang=eng

They just keep growing...

Josh

Jenna

I wanted to do this age progression to see how my kids have changed from year to year.  Shockingly, I have two children who have run the full cycle from birth to senior year of high school - ahhh!  I designed these in Photoshop and had them printed at Costco.  I love both of those tools!  It was wonderful and a little tearful to see how they've changed from those tiny babies I first held in my arms to the fabulous adults they are today.  Now on the wall in our office so I can travel down memory lane whenever I want.

Auditory Learners

I got a call two weeks ago from the MTC asking if I would be able to take on another missionary.  He had been tutored by one of our sisters, but after one lesson, she didn't know what to do to teach him.  Turns out, this elder has dyslexia and is an auditory learner.  I said, "Oh!  I know what to do for that - my daughter is an auditory learner."  (Did  you know that about Kellie?  She needs to hear books read aloud to her in order to understand them.  I've done a lot of research this last year on it to learn how to help her.)  When I met with the elder, I began by explaining what I knew about auditory learners and told him some of the positive things about that type of learner.  I read aloud to him and had him tell me what he understood - it was very difficult for him.  At one point, he said, "I just want you know, I am not dumb."  I replied, "I know you're not dumb.  You're very intelligent"  and went on to learn that he was a whiz at math, an excellent speaker and an insightful group discussion contributor.  I gave him some techniques to work on, but realized very quickly that he really needed an audio device for his personal study.  You know the rules about that at the MTC, so I followed the chain of command and after a day was able to get permission.  Then it was a matter of finding a player.  Everyone I talked to was positive that there were no iPhones or MP3 players at the MTC, but I kindly said, "I know there are, because I saw my son and his district with them in September."  After another day, we located one and had the scriptures downloaded to it and I was able to present it to this elder.  We studied together with it in Enos:  he had his scriptures open and then also had the Illustrated Book of Mormon open to the section on Enos, and then we would listen to the audio, pausing after a verse or a couple of verses to check comprehension.  What a difference!  It was such a testimony to me of how the Lord provides for His children.  Just before this elder left for the mission field, I spoke with his mission president and was able to get permission for him to use the audio there as well.  

This week, I had another opportunity to be an instrument in this area.  I had a missionary referred to me who came in on Wed who was identified as an auditory learner, just like the one from the week before.  Usually, we don't start tutoring until the following Monday, but I felt strongly when I got his name Thursday evening that I needed to meet with him Friday morning.  So I hauled myself up and to the MTC by 8 am.   This elder is a hardworking farm boy from Rexburg, ID. (He was super tan so I asked him where he'd been to get that tan thinking he'd say Lake Powell or something like that and he said, "I work on a farm.  I'm always outside.")  When he started high school, he knew that he needed a different way to learn, so he searched on his own until he found a computer program that scans in any book and then transfers the page to the screen and reads it aloud to you.  He made sure this program was on every computer at his school and the schools in the area and spent the rest of his high school time promoting its use in schools around the nation.  It changed everything for him - he had been a D student before and he became an A student.  I asked him what he had done in school before he found that program and he said he'd been in special ed classes.  Tragedy!  He was learning less because the schools didn't know how to teach him, not because he wasn't capable of understanding.  I very quickly determined that he needed an audio player at the MTC and went to work getting the necessary approvals.  Since a precedent had already been set because of the work with the other elder, I had an audio player in that elder's hand less than two hours later.  Amazing!  He was so grateful.  He had been preparing himself to struggle and to just accept it and rely on the Lord - such humility and faith - and was praying for help.  When I gave him the audio player, he said, "This is an answer to prayer."  It's wonderful how the Lord is using my experience in helping Kellie to help others, too.  

Auditory learning is a learning style in which a person learns through listening. An auditory learner depends on hearing and speaking as a main way of learning.^[1] Auditory learners must be able to hear what is being said in order to understand and may have difficulty with instructions that are written. They also use their listening and repeating skills to sort through the information that is sent to them.

A Year Today

It is officially one year since my Josh entered the MTC as a full-time servant of the Lord.  It has been a year of amazing growth for him - and it has been wonderful to see.  I am grateful for the opportunity that he grasped to serve.  He is a better, stronger, more spiritual, kinder, gentler man than he was when he left.  Congrats on the year mark, son, you make me proud.